Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Distinctions

Today I am grateful that I continue to distinguish between things I enjoy and those things that I enjoy which are also good for me!

Let me explain a bit. I love people, ideas and synergy. Many times I get caught up in the energy of an opportunity without taking a moment to understand if the energy is pulling or if it is the opportunity itself. Sometimes we are given opportunities so that we can determine if they are here at the right time.

Have you ever gotten really excited about something, really caught up in the moment to find, in retrospect, that it is not what you need most in your life right now? Think about the last time you went shopping and saw something that just took your breath away. You HAD to have it! You may have thought about it, pondered it and decided to buy it, despite some reservations. You bought the energy that it gave you. Later you say to yourself, "Why did I buy that anyway? It doesn't look right, fit right, etc. It was way to expensive for my current lifestyle."

I now ask myself several questions before I make these "energetic" decisions:
1. How would my life change if I choose this now?
2. Is there something similar that fits my needs better?
3. Do I need this or WANT this?
4. What cost would I pay for not following through right now?

I still get caught up in the energy sometimes. When I do, and later realize the choice may not have been the best for me, I am grateful to have discovered yet one more way to define what I really desire.

Thursday, May 22, 2008

Charlie Brown-Happiness Is

From "You're a Good Man Charlie Brown"

HAPPINESS IS FINDING A PENCIL.
PIZZA WITH SAUSAGE
TELLING THE TIME.
HAPPINESS IS LEARNING TO WHISTLE.
TYING YOUR SHOE FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME.

HAPPINESS IS PLAYING THE DRUM IN YOUR OWN SCHOOL BAND.
AND HAPPINESS IS WALKING HAND IN HAND.
HAPPINESS IS TWO KINDS OF ICE CREAM.
KNOWING A SECRET.
CLIMBING A TREE.
HAPPINESS IS FIVE DIFFERENT CRAYONS.
CATCHING A FIREFLY.
SETTING HIM FREE.

HAPPINESS IS BEING ALONE EVERY NOW AND THEN.
AND HAPPINESS IS COMING HOME AGAIN.
HAPPINESS IS MORNING AND EVENING,
DAY TIME AND NIGHT TIME TOO.
FOR HAPPINESS IS ANYONE AND ANYTHING AT ALL
THAT'S LOVED BY YOU.

HAPPINESS IS HAVING A SISTER.
SHARING A SANDWICH.
GETTING ALONG.
HAPPINESS IS SINGING TOGETHER WHEN DAY IS THROUGH,
AND HAPPINESS IS THOSE WHO SING WITH YOU.
HAPPINESS IS MORNING AND EVENING,
DAYTIME AND NIGHTTIME TOO.
FOR HAPPINESS IS ANYONE AND ANYTHING AT ALL
THAT'S LOVED BY YOU.

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Happiness

Recently a great group of women created a list of what happiness, true happiness, is to (us). Here's what we came up with. Please add your ideas:

Happiness is a simplified ego and simplified soul. A simplified ego practices acceptance, acknowledement and appreciation. A simplified soul is unmoved by turbulence, has a deeper understanding of mankind, is in gratitude 24 hours a day/7 days a week, operates from purposeful living and empowers others to do the same.

Happiness is harmonious consciousness. Time is spent allowing and serving the greater good. The pasing of time is not measured in what has not been accomplished, but is true bliss with no regret.

Happiness is total presence and connection to every thing. It is celebrating the purpose in every thing-good and "bad".

Happiness is when you smile so often your cheeks hurt-all the time!

Happiness is coming................

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Grateful Giving

This entry is from a dear friend I met on a cruise this past October.


I have had the most wonderful afternoon! The installer was here changing our satellite service to Direct TV. I was in my office working on locates when I thought I would attempt to return the man's kindnesses. He had gone to a great deal of trouble to run cable up to the tree house. He had told me he would hook up our existing recorders and the grandchildren's games. He also displayed patience in teaching me DVR olgy.

I explained to him what I was doing and asked if there was anyone he would like for me to locate. Without hesitation he blurted, "my brother, Howard!" "We were brought up in the boy's ranch out of San Antonio and we have not had contact with him for nearly thirty years". There had been three of the brothers at the ranch with a sister having been raised by an aunt. I made him no promises and went back in my office.

Twenty minutes later, he came down the hall on his way to another set in another room. I called out to him, "John, come here please." "Your brother is on my phone". He walked into the office with a look of total disbelief. Without a word to me, he took the phone and asked firmly, "who is this"? Of course, I could only hear his part of the conversation but, it was clear that he was testing this person claiming to be his long lost brother. "Do we have any siblings?" "Oh Dear God, that's right". I later learned that the third brother's name was Fred G. Jr. but these two brothers called him G.G.

I left the room as his voice started to choke. A few minutes later I walked in to get my cell phone and heard him tell his brother, "I have three sons Howard." "Three!" "Yes, they are 27, 24, and 17." "I love you man!!!"

When he had finished the call, he walked outside where Weldon and I stood trying to give him privacy. He thanked me profusely and went on about his work.

I walked into the last room he was hooking up to tell him I was leaving for an appointment and to thank him. As I walked into the room, he was holding his cell phone to his ear with his shoulder as he worked with the cables. He looked up and again had tears in his eyes. He was talking to his sister and trying to convince her that he had actually talked to Howard and they were planning a family reunion.

Was it chance that he was the one sent to install the system or was it the divine hand of the Master Communicator? Lordy, I love my job!

Jan Elliott

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Mother's Day

I am grateful that I knew my mother. She taught me many things, some through her own mistakes and some through her own difficulties.

I believe I taught her some things, too. I taught her to believe in herself no matter how many things she felt she did wrong. I taught her to accept that she did the best she could. I taught her how different I was (LOL). I showed her that she could still dream in her 70's.

I celebrated her graduation from High School at age 50, her first job in over 40 years (other than raising 7 children herself) and her strength as she learned to deal with her lung cancer. I celebrated that she lived longer than the doctors gave her. I celebrated her death.

Mom passed away 9 years ago, but she lives on inside me. As silly as it may seem, there are times I do something, notice something, capture a random thought- and smile a smile of thanks- for I know it was my mom checking in.

Happy Mother's Day!

Friday, May 9, 2008

Grateful Giving

This entry is a story from a wonderful woman I met on a cruise this past fall:

I have had the most wonderful afternoon! The installer was here changing our satellite service to Direct TV. I was in my home office working. He had gone to a great deal of trouble to run cable, hook up our existing recorders and the grandchildren's games. He also displayed patience in teaching me DVR olgy.

I explained to him that I locate people and asked if there was anyone he would like for me to locate. Without hesitation he blurted, "my brother, Howard!" "We were brought up in the boy's ranch out of San Antonio and we have not had contact with him for nearly thirty years". There had been three of the brothers at the ranch with a sister having been raised by an aunt. I made him no promises and went back in my office.

Twenty minutes later, he came down the hall on his way to another set in another room. I called out to him, "John, come here please." "Your brother is on my phone". He walked into the office with a look of total disbelief. Without a word to me, he took the phone and asked firmly, "who is this"? Of course, I could only hear his part of the conversation but, it was clear that he was testing this person claiming to be his long lost brother. "Do we have any siblings?" "Oh Dear God, that's right". I later learned there was a third brother.

I left the room as his voice started to choke. A few minutes later I walked in to get my cell phone and heard him tell his brother, "I have three sons Howard." "Three!" "Yes, they are 27, 24, and 17." "I love you man!!!"

When he had finished the call, he walked outside where I stood trying to give him privacy. He thanked me profusely and went on about his work.

I walked into the last room he was hooking up to tell him I was leaving for an appointment and to thank him. As I walked into the room, he was holding his cell phone to his ear with his shoulder as he worked with the cables. He looked up and again had tears in his eyes. He was talking to his sister and trying to convince her that he had actually talked to Howard and they were planning a family reunion.

Was it chance that he was the one sent to install the system or was it the divine hand of the Master Communicator? Lordy, I love my job!

J. Elliott

Monday, May 5, 2008

Amazing Grace!

I was having a bit of procrastination this morning. I found myself moving from one task to the next, then on to something else with very little focus. After exercising, I took the dog for her walk and there the day unfolded.

I met a neighbor several streets from my home. As I guided my dog around her so we would not disturb her lawn mowing, I said hello and the world changed. The dog instinctively laid down in the shade, while "Sandy" and I began to chat-this after telling the pooch we only had a few minutes to roam. Sandy began to remark about the house next door that sold last year and had recently been up on the market again. From there, we talked about her children and family, her own situation and about coaching.

As I listened intently to the wisdom she shared, I stood in amazement. This woman had endured raising an Asberger's Syndrome child, let go of a dear relative with complete acceptance, empowered her daughter after fear and anxiety set in during the last of her teen years and letting go of a spouse. She said, "Until now, I never thought I'd overcome struggle. I spent those difficult times doing one thing, then doing the next one thing until the day was through." Sandy used some of the very tools I use in coaching.

Reframing the situation- Sandy clearly understood early on that it is necessary to see things as they appear "on the outside" in order to choose what to do. A new perspective allows new options to appear.

Focus- Knowing in which direction to move can be the key to success or temporary failure.

Matching beliefs and values- When your values are in opposition to a belief you have adopted,achieving a balance is essential to building momentum.

And gratitude-When you are grateful for what each situation brings to you, you are given more.

Sandy, thank you for showing me through your experiences in life, how much I have to be grateful for today. You expressed the lessons I needed for today.