Tuesday, March 31, 2009

The Importance of Pulling Together

Recently, a member of my husband's family experienced a stroke. Since then, every family member and friend hasexperienced the power of pulling together to aid in the healing of not only the patient but of those surrounding them.

Healing from stroke is very different from healing from an illness in the sense that part of the healing is mental and is not visible to outsiders. The stroke that struck my husband's family member affected the mobility of the left side. The muscles controlling speech, swallowing and smiling are all learning how to again perform their respective functions. The arm and shoulder muscles must learn how to interpret signals from the brain in order to create movement. The thigh, knee, leg and foot all need to take orders from the brain and learn how to synchronize their movements in order for a step to be taken.

As these miracles occur in the patient's body and mind, those around him pull together to synchronize visits and to provide care and support of other family members. Most importantly, outside of the patient's recovery, I have discovered how important it is to conserve our own energy and to allow others to do the same.

Recovery from stroke is a very mental game, as described by Jill Bolte Taylor in My Stroke of Insight. It is a mental game inside and out.

I am grateful for the discovery that in order to give healing energy I must conserve my own energy. Otherwise, I could become a drain on the patient's energy: which is critical for recovery.

Coach Renee

Friday, March 13, 2009

When in Doubt-Give love out

This past week, my father-in-law experienced a health crisis. A great doctor's visit Monday morning and moments after arriving home he suffered a stroke. Thursday morning, news that rehab is next-and waiting.

My father-in-law is now reaping the benefits of acute physical therapy and I expect him to recover well. Depending on the day and the moment, this week could be described as long, hard, sad, upsetting, uncertain or maybe unfair. It could also be described as a blessing, a new journey, a learning experience, God in action,or love.

It is not my intent to take away whatever feelings my husband and his family have experienced. It is only my intent to share something amazing that has come to me- and that is a sense of peace.

I believe it was August 2008 that I watched an Oprah interview with Jill Bolte Taylor, the brain scientist who wrote about her own stroke experience as both a patient and a scientist. I immedaitely went out and bought her book. The book is a remarkable read from many, many perspectives. Recently, I lent my copy of the book, My Stroke of Insight, to a neighbor who is experiencing the same electricity I did as I read it. A few days later, I got the call that my father-in-law had suffered a stroke.

The book did not come immediatley to mind. However, many things Jill had explained about her experience sprang forth as I watched people interact with my father-in-law. I hope the lessons she shared will allow me to respect my father-in-law's right to rediscover himself with unbending support from those around him. I am eager to listen to what his wishes are-his voice waivering a bit or hesitating slighly. I call forth compassion for his frustrations and worries about his wife.

I think the peace I feel comes from having read the book before experiencing stroke from the outside looking in and from the effort Jill put into writing this book as a means of understanding from a patient's view. I truly beleive this is one way that my father-in-law can receive the love, caring, compassion and respect he gives to others without thought.

Although everyone is experiencing change thrust upon them without warning or notice, I urge you to keep in mind that blessings come in all types of packages and do not always come wrapped in pretty paper and ribbons. When you face doubt and fear, try following the example my father-in-law has shown to me in his every day life:


Plenty more will come back to you to be given out again.

In gratitude for all I have been given and all I have to give,

Coach Renee

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Hidden Treasures in Plain Sight

I received an email from Iris Benrubi of Simply Success in Canada with a link to a special inspiring message.

This message is a precious way for us to remember that we are surrounded by gifts and support every day. We just need to take time to see what is there for our enjoyment and comfort.

Please treat yourself to this link now:


Thanks to Iris Benrubi for sharing this message. Iris can be found at
Simply Success, 1 Promenade Circle #302, Thornhill, Ontario L4J 4P8, CANADA

To your abundance,
Coach Renee

Sunday, March 1, 2009

Inside Out with Dan Caro

From Jayne Moffit's "The Unabridged Life" newsletter, Feb.26,2009 ISSN 2008 216360 with permission.

Jayne's message:

For more than 10 years now, I've been helping people build a bridge between dreams and reality and no matter what the dream is there is one criterion that must be met to bring it to life. Whether it's in business or the arts or simply how you present yourself, the vision that you dream of must be communicated effectively to the rest of the world. Once you find that dialogue, success will happen. Without it, you may as well be talking to the proverbial brick wall. There are two key factors to communicating your vision; Gratitude and Confidence. Gratitude for everything in your life brings you into alignment with honesty and the Universe responds to honesty with growth. Honesty invites the expansion of you and therefore your vision. The second key is confidence. Confidence that everything is working just as it should, opens up the pathway for trust between you and the process of manifestation. A vision communicated with Gratitude and Confidence will inevitably manifest in the real. You can read more about this alignment here, but right now I'd like to turn your attention to an inspiring speaker that epitomizes these ideas. My friend Dan Caro, has been choosing gratitude and confidence his entire life. Overcoming monumental obstacles, he now communicates his vision with sincere truth and honesty in both his music and his speaking. Read Dan's Inside Out story below.

What in the World Does One do Without Hands?
by guest Author: Dan Caro

When I was twelve years old I asked my dad if I could play a musical instrument. Being a musician himself, he was very excited. He and I both thought that the drums would be the easiest instrument for me to play. The question now, is how does one hold drumsticks without fingers?

At the age of two, I was severely burned in a gasoline related fire and lost most of my hands and all of my fingers. I have third and fourth degree burns over nearly eighty percent of my body. After many reconstructive surgeries, to make me look as normal and as functional as possible, I underwent a surgery that gave me the use of moveable thumbs. I was able to grip the drumstick with my left hand using my newly created thumb. With my right hand, however, I had a big problem. Even though I have the same type of reconstructed thumb, it is much smaller so I was unable to grip the stick.

I thought about this very creatively and decided that I would need a device to wrap around my wrist to grip the stick. I tried a bowling glove first, made of very rigid leather. It held the stick snugly against my wrist but it was too rigid preventing the stick from moving. In drumming, the stick needs be able to move freely. Next I tried, very foolishly, glue and then duct tape. Neither of the results were very favorable. Actually, both hurt very bad and caused major skin irritations. I tried rope, orthopedic splints and many other kinds of wraps but nothing seemed to work.

After weeks of trying some pretty crazy things, my dad suggested using a tennis wristband. I tried it and liked it a lot but it was not tight enough which led to the idea of trying rubber bands. The rubber bands had the right amount of tightness but it hurts having rubber bands wrapped tightly around your wrist. Finally, I decided to use the wristband with the rubber bands on top. It worked perfectly. As a matter of fact, it works so perfectly, I have not modified the technique at all. Even with several Orthopedic and plastic surgeons, a prosthetic maker, several occupational therapists and a Boeing engineer spending hours and hours trying to help create something better, I am still using my wristbands/rubber bands, or as I have come to know it, the "No-Hand" wristband.

This "No-Hand" wristband has allowed me some of the greatest experiences I could have ever imagined. Who could have thought in 1982 after my accident, as I lay dying on an operating table with my fingers literally crumbling off of my body, I would become a professional drummer touring the country? Who could have thought that I would even be alive to tell this story?

We are all blessed with an abundance of ability and opportunity. Some choose to accept this and others choose to reject it but know this, it is your choice. As it turns out, my accident was the greatest gift I've ever received. Everything is possible. You are your only limit.

"No-Hand" Dan Caro

Listen to Dan's Music: http://twurl.nl/wnkhio

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In gratitude,
Coach Renee