Monday, December 26, 2011

Are You WIlling?

There is a difference between knowing something and being aware of something.

Recognizing a piece of information because you have heard it before does not mean you "know" it. To know something, you must have the awareness of it. You must experience it. You must understand it at a deep level.

I bet you have experienced a time or two in your life when someone told you a piece of information to which you replied, "I know". Then, they ask "If you know it why didn't you do it?"

You may have just heard an old conversation in your head-such as a parent telling you something they have told you before. You clearly hear yourself saying "I know".

Information is an ingredient to knowing something. Information gives you a context in which to determine what, if anything, needs to be done. It may give you an indication as to where you might start. But to know it, you must act upon the information in a meaningful and focused way.

Are you willing to know, to understand fully, information that you have been given which, if put into practice or acted upon, would give you different results?

Monday, December 12, 2011

Four Fundamental Questions

Neale Donald Walsch proposes 4 fundamental questions in life:

Who am I? Describe yourself from the viewpoint of your role in the world. Identify how you influence the world, it's people and it's future.

Where am I? Describe how are you experiencing yourself in the world. Describe "the world" you live in in terms of what is does "to" you, "for" you or "without" you. Is the experience one of being schooled, competing, being devleoped or molded?

Why am I where I am? Give great thought to the decisions and choices you have made that resulted in the reality you find yourself in today.

Most importantly, what do you intend to do about THAT? What choices are you going to make differently and what difference will that make in your experiencing of the world as you have known it to be?

"There is no more powerful change than to start a conversation" Neale Donald Walsch, P.50

How will you engage in this conversation?

Friday, December 2, 2011

Life's Golden Ticket

In the book, Life's Golden Ticket by Brendon Burchard, he suggests that instead of asking: What is happening to me right now?
ASK: What am I making happen in my life right now?

Instead of asking: What am I getting out of this?
ASK: What am I giving right now? (P178)

When we take responsibility for our circumstances,actions and results we find there is much more to be grateful for than if we look at our circumstances from what is wrong.

Saturday, November 26, 2011

The Law of Gratitude

Wallace Wattles, in The Science of Success, describes the Law of Gratitude as:
the natural principle that action and reaction are always equal and in opposite direction. The grateful outreaching of your mind in thankful praise to the Supreme is a liberation or expenditure of force; it cannot fail to reach that to which it is addressed, and the reaction is an instantaneous movement towards you.

He goes on to say, "Without gratitude you cannot long keep from dissatisfied thought regarding things as they are."(Pg 46)

Where can you show or express more gratitude?
- in traffic
- as you experience difficulty
- when you hear of a tragedy or negative happening

What would you be grateful for in the above circumstances or those which are similar? How would that change the way you areseeing the world?

Friday, November 18, 2011

Thanksgiving and Change

I needed a break this morning: space to think and breathe. So, I decided to go out to rake some leaves. I love raking leaves, especially when the sky is blue, the air is crisp, the sun is shining and the downed leaves are still holding their colors tightly.

As my shoulders begin to complain to my arm muscles about the calming, repetitive motion, I remembered the Season of Gratitude post last year before Thanksgiving Day in the US. Thanking people you wouldn’t normally reach out to, such as those who collect your trash, felt so empowering to me. So, what am I going to do this year?

This year I am practicing the Art of Embracing Life’s Lessons. When I become aware that I am resisting something through judgment or defense, I practice asking, “What is my lesson here?” Many times I have surprised myself by learning that I still have an expectation of others to behave as I know I want to behave and when THEY don’t meet my (mostly unspoken) expectations, I start to hold it against them. That is, until I realize my mistake.

Here I am, raking leaves in the crisp autumn air and sun shine, reflecting on some recent lessons I was given to learn from. I have this sudden urge to come in and invite you to join me for the next week in thanking those in our lives that have taught us some of Life’s Lessons.

I will be sending Thank You notes to people in my life from whom I have gained a deeper understanding about myself and my impact on those around me. It's not the traditional show of gratitude for the "nice" things; it's gratitude for the tough stuff that helps me grow.

In other words, I will be acknowledging people for the challenges they brought to me from which I learned a life lesson. For instance, one person in my life repeatedly shows me where I have an opportunity to be more compassionate by being compassionate to me when I am not presenting my best self.

Will you join me? Will you thank someone, in your own way, for showing you things about yourself that, if improved, recognized, healed, addressed in any way, would bring out a better you?

And, will you share your experiences here so that others may recognize their opportunity in your realization?

For inspiration, watch Oprah’s Life Class episode 6, titled “when you know better, you do better.”

A good resource for writing meaningful thank you notes is the book, 365 Thank Yous by John Kralik

Friday, August 19, 2011

Soul Stories

I want to share something I just read in Gary Zukav's book, Soul Stories:
pg. 78

"Feeding anger is like joining a club. When you go to that club, you always find angry people. That is what the club is for... Joy and gratitude are clubs. They work the same way."

Join a gratitude and joy club today. Suspend your membership to small growth clubs like the anger club, the victim club, etc. Not that these clubs themselves don't grow in membership numbers-they do. But the members themselves grow slowly or not at all.

The price you pay for gratitude and joy may at times feel steep. It involves growth and learning from mistakes or misbeliefs. The other clubs are free of charge at first; the cost escalates exponentially with the passing of time.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Key to Happiness

I am sharing a blog post from "The Neagle Code: Directions for Life"

Learn how to keep yourself from being sucked in to negativity.

"The key to joy and happiness is gratitude, BUT, the key to gratitude is to be a master of your thoughts and emotions."
Read David Neagle's full blog post here:

Friday, March 18, 2011

Are You Acting from Gratitude, Love, and Trust or Doubt and Fear?

Below is a message I received from Joe Rubino. It is worth sharing:

This is Joe Rubino and I'm writing today to focus your awareness on
the source of your actions. As human beings, we operate daily
reflecting a wide range of emotions with a multitude of motivations
fueling our behaviors. All too often, we react emotionally to what
others say or do. If our reactions are preceded by the emotions of
fear, anger, or sadness, we forfeit our ability to act with
personal power and effectiveness in lieu of a knee-jerk response.

This reaction is all too often sourced in fear and low self-esteem.
We may focus on what's wrong with us and our lives or fear being
controlled, hurt, or taken advantage of. We may overlook the many
things we have in our lives for which we should rightly be

When we doubt our ability to thrive and access the
abundance we see all around us in the world, we react instead from
the concern of scarcity and the expectation of failure, hurt, and

We may see ourselves in competition for the world's
resources and the love and attention of others rather than
realizing that there is more than enough of all that is good to go
around. We forget that we manifest what we expect rather than
needing to compete for limited resources.

Whenever we forget that we are magnificent beings and that there is
plenty of wealth, happiness, fun, and fulfillment to go around, we
might feel the need to protect ourselves from what we perceive to
be a dangerous world. We likewise tend to forget that others
operate from the same lacking self-confidence, scarcity of
gratitude, and deficient self-love that we often do.

So, whenever two or more individuals see themselves as not good enough to tap
into the world's abundance and get all their needs met from a
physical, social, mental, and emotional perspective, conflicts are
likely to arise. The result is broken relationships, strained
communication, emotional pain, struggle, and suffering. All of
these are needless and optional for those who realize their ability
to detach from the struggle and master their emotional response.

When we stop to realize that everyone else suffers from the same
self-doubt and fear of being dominated and cheated out of getting
their fair share of love, fun, money, possessions, and security, we
can break the vicious cycle of endless competition and continual
striving for domination.

We can realize that cooperation and communication is more effective in producing harmony than competition and a focus on self-interest based on fear. We can
intentionally choose to trust that others are doing the best they
know how to do based upon how they see the world. We can assume
that they act from good intentions, even when we fear the opposite.

We can hold them as worthy, competent, loving, good natured and
capable of creating win-win relationships rather than fearing them
as hateful, ill meaning, incompetent, unworthy, selfish opponents.

When we decide to champion others by looking for the best in them
and interact with them out of an attitude of gratitude for their
gifts, strengths, and positive qualities, in such as manner that
they are clear that we hold them as intrinsically good and worthy
of our love and respect, we provide for them a new and exciting
opportunity for them to show up for us in this manner.

Our decision to hold others as great (because they really are when we strip away
their anger, fears, and insecurities) allows them the freedom to rise to our expectations. By operating from love and gratitude for the wisdom and empathy we develop as a result of our interactions with others, we see their mistakes as temporary indiscretions producing valuable lessons from which to learn and grow rather than reflections of a fundamentally defective being.

The key to bringing out the best in others is non-attachment. When we realize that we have total control over our response to any situation, and we give up our right to be invalidated by others or control them, we will possess a newfound freedom that allows us to exit the drama of conflict in favor of understanding, compassion,
and love.

Decide now to be grateful for the challenges you will encounter in your life and business. See the problems that arise as opportunities for your personal development. Look for these challenges as you go about your day, be grateful when you encounter them, and seek out the gifts awaiting your discovery.

Exercise for Expanding Gratitude and Shifting Your Reactive Nature

1. List all the things you have decided to be grateful for in your life and business.
2. In your daily journal, record each time you fail to express gratitude for a challenging situation.
3. Catch yourself reacting emotionally to what someone says or does and shift your perception in that moment to appreciate the learning experience at hand.
4. In your daily life and business, who are you not holding as magnificent?
5. How can you champion their excellence and express gratitude for the opportunity to grow in love and wisdom that they are gifting you instead of reacting with anger, sadness, or fear?
6. Who are you seeking to control or avoid being controlled by?

Will you take on the practice of non-attachment in your relationship with them by creating space for them to be who they are? Do this for 30 days and record in your journal how your interactions with them evolve. Make note of something that you can
be grateful for in each situation.

Dr. Joe Rubino is a life-changing life optimization and business coach and the best-selling author of and 11 other transformational books available worldwide in 19 languages.

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